Worst wedding ever
 

Check this out...an outdoor wedding at a country club was delayed 15 minutes due to unexpected weather conditions...it wasn't supposed to rain.

Then, in the first 4 minutes of the processional, one of the guests died in his seat. This delayed the wedding for another half hour.

After that, some crazy lady lost her little puppy dog and started to yell out the dogs name and came right up to the bridal party asking if they could help her find it. This was a disruption that toally blew everyone away.

Then, having three audio recording sources to capture the vows, etc. the wind was blowing so hard, you couldn't make out what anyone was saying.

The unity candle wouldn't stay lit even though it was in a hurricane lamp.

Alter decorations were falling to the ground, flower girl's pettals were blowing away as she tried to place them in front of her as she went down the isle.

These are just a few horrible memories I can recall at this writing.

AND THIS IS JUST THE CEREMONY!!!

The reception turned to sh!t also...I'm not even going to go there.

What can I do?

Turn it all into a music video?

You think you had a bad day...how about this.

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Tom
Wow. I really, really feel sorry for the B/G. I think you must do your best and get something out of this just to ease their pain.

Stelios

(I'm sorry Tom but I have to ask...)

DID YOU FILM SOME SCENE? ANY!


Jokes apart... feel very sorry about the special day of b/g.

Cheers.

I feel your pain, really. I had the weather and wind on Friday. No one died (although I felt like it myself when it started raining and my B camwas out in itthank goodness it was covered with a garbage bag so no harm but still...)
Anyway, do the best ya can with what ya got that's all you can do.
It may not be the 'award winner' but it will be what happened on their wedding day and while they might not want to be reminded of some of the things that went on it is what happened.
Do what you can with the footage and don't feel bad about it--you don't control the weather or human nature (re: lady looking for her dog).
Good luck
Don

Someone died? Talk about a bad omen...

How about.....
 

...a post-event interview (simple) with the B&G with their recollections of the day. Even do it as a VO and cut the events to their comments... Use music and some of their narrative. Hey, it might even be somewhat therapeutic for them to talk about it.

I'm trying to imagine the scene of all of this. Wow.

At least you have something to share with couples in the future who are planning their wedding. Gulf - summer - afternoon - outdoor without an easily switchable indoor venue - BAD idea.

Many couples want to have a beautiful outdoor wedding but they also need to consider the risks they are taking. A number of years ago, I spent a year in Orlando Florida. In the summer, it rained almost every afternoon. During these rainstorms it was often VERY windy as well. During the summer, the odds of a weather problem in the gulf states and Florida in the morning is much less than the afternoon. If a couple has a burning desire for an outdoor wedding in your part of the country during the summer, they would be wise to schedule it in the morning rather than the afternoon.

I realize that a videographer can't set a time for a wedding but at least they can share their experience and advise and then the couple can make an informed decision.

To be a little facetious, it's also a bad idea to plan an outdoor wedding in Alaska during December and hope it won't be cold outside.

Someone died in the scene and they still decide to proceed with the wedding ceremony?!!? woow.. what a day!

Wow! I'm laughing but I know I shouldn't be - how do you cope with something like that?

I wonder what the bride & groom think? - if they can look back and laugh then maybe you can do a post wedding interview and include some footage.

If they just want to forget the day then ... I dont know

as far as any part of the day being a bad omen - horse$%#$ - let's not lumber them with that.

Wow. Crazy! I would call the B&G and get a feel for what they want to do. They obviously don't get their money back, but offer some options. Re-dub vows for example. High wind isn't your problem after all. If the B&G are just laughing it off, then proceed as normal. If they are emotionally scared, then.... well.... Lord help you, because that edit will be hard!

Looks like we are going to do a little ADR work. The bride, groom and pastor are going to do some sync work with the video clips. I know this is additional work, but then they will have the vows etc. in studio quality. I'm thinking of throwing is some ambient wind just to give it a little depth.

By the way, the link to part one of a three part video that is playing at their second reception in Philly is here...

www.bluestarvideo.com/videos/first.wmv

What a string of bad luck!
 

Looks like you made due with what you shot. The song was a great choice!
I'd agree with Jason, feel out the attitude of the BG and move on with caution.
I would defiantly keep in mind that that day is apart of their story! Embrace it!

PS- I LOVE the last shot, what did you use to film that?

Mary, that was a 16' camera crane on that last shot...one of my favorite shots as well.

Tom, that's horrible. I had a wedding last year where the bride's grandma died that morning, but at least she wasn't at the wedding yet. I'm amazed that someone died AT the wedding and it was only delayed a half hour. Good thing this wasn't your first one. d;-)

Great crane shot at the end, btw.

Wow, what a day. At least you've got a story to tell for years to come...

My very first wedding shoot was outdoors in a record-setting heat wave. And I don't mean just record setting for that date, but a record setting heat index at that location since records have been kept. People were passing out all around. One elderly lady toppled down a natural stone staircase right in front of me - I thought for sure she was gone, but they bandaged her up and she stayed through the whole event.

Good job on a tough day!

Believe me, it can be far, far worse, like when not everyone makes it to to the reception venue.

Your wedding was actually somewhat humorus although it wouldn't seem like it at the time.

Does it make me a bad person that my initial reaction to you saying that someone died made me giggle?

I'd offer them to cut bait for 1/3 to 1/2 the base fee (to avoid having to fix a mess that can't be fixed). Neither you or they will be happy and I'd want to be gracious to them and cover some of your base expenses for being there.

Sounds like this was an even better captured by stills. Perhaps you could work with B&G and still photographer (yeah I know, tough....) and see if you could automate his stills or something for the full fee.

Time to cut bait or make lemonade!

I, myself, don't know how the parents could live with themselves knowing they wanted the show to go on instead of rescheduling. Money talks, bull sh!t walks I guess.

If I was the bride, I wouldn't know whether to laugh or cry...I did notice that when the crazy puppy lady came into the scene, everyone laughed as though they were thinking "you gotta be kidding me!"

Anyway, Rodger, I'm going to try and make lemonade.

Hey Tom,
Just my .02 but I think the worse thing you could do is use a really slow sad melancholy song for your video! It was already depressing enough with someone dying along with everything else that went wrong! I've had my share of weddings where the bride just couldn't get anything to go her way! Every song I used in her video was upbeat & happy! Her and her entire family loved the fact that we did that for them! We also then had the Bride and Groom come over to watch the DVD and kinda commentate the whole thing! They loved that! Just an idea:)

I might be in the minority on this, but I wouldn't offer to cut their fee at all. I'm in this to make a living and just because someone's wedding goes badly doesn't mean I shouldn't be paid in full. Tom could have easily been at another wedding that didn't go bad. Anyways, just my business logic I guess. I'd feel really bad, but I wouldn't cut my fee at all.

A persons' reaction to the highlights you provide will surprise you sometimes. In this case, I just got a call from the groom. He told me he was going to come over and shoot me.

His wife is running the first video through the computer onto their widescreen tv on a continuous loop and it's keeping him form getting to watch any tv. That's a good thing I guess.

Part 3 of their Houston experience is here:

www.bluestarvideo.com/videos/part3.wmv

Now I just need to finnish part 2 that has the voice-overs of the ceremony.

I agree with Travis on this. Besides, all of the elements needed are there for the video. There is just some other un-expected events that also happened. But hey.. that's why we get paid to edit, right?

Tom, I think your idea of bringing them back to do voice-overs is great.

I think as someone engaged to perform a duty, it doesn't really matter if the subject material is good or bad as long as you do your best.

Not always video, but I'm a theatrical production manager and many shows I work on are grim. I shot one music event - 3 manned cams and a couple of static effects ones. The venue lighting was grim, the audience were unresponsive and the band tired. The artiste knew it was a poor show and asked me to just edit 3 songs which she picked. After she saw them, she told me not to do any more, just invoice the office. I did, for the full fee as arranged. They paid, AND booked a new date to get it done again. I don't think it matters about the actual 'event'. It isn't like we're being engaged to take a risk, is it? We are just there to do our best.

Considering all the things that happened that day, you did a good job picking up the pieces! One thing in the video bothered me though.. you had one black and white shot of the crystals hanging from the tree. What was the significance of it being black and white? I didn't get it.

How long did it take to set up the last crane shot? Good job on that one!

Tim,

My thought was it may be best to get paid for the time and effort already expended and avoid the work to try and make something out of nothing that won't please either party. I guess there is also a dose of the Golden Rule in there as well. If I'm in the B&G's shoes I'd appreciate the option of helping the video guy to break even for his efforts and cut my losses and print a few good still photos and hope the other disastrous memories will fade with time.

To be clear, I'm not proposing Chris reduce the fee and finish the job. Rather I'm suggesting he offer to discontinue the work and cover his losses in time and effort to this point. Think of it like when the mechanic charges you $250 to find out that the transmission will cost $2,000 to fix and the car is only worth $1,250.

I saw in another post that you have only produced one wedding video. After you do quite a few, you realize that pretty much every wedding has some kind of disaster. Yes, I realize this is pretty extreme. The families could have canceled and/ or postponed the wedding, however, they chose to continue with the ceremony and the reception. Therefore, we must do our job also. Offering the bride and groom to not finish the job is a very amateur move in my opinion.

Part of being a "pro" is rolling with the punches - wedding video is not for the timid, and it appears Tom has already pulled off a good "save"... That's what separates the pro from the amateur!

I'd still like to know how the reception could possibly have gone downhill with a runup like the ceremony... will we get that story after Tom recovers?

"Wedding" and "disaster" seem somehow fated to be in the same sentence sometimes... yet even with the craziness, ya gotta love it! Car accidents, florists that "forgot" to show up, officiants who forget the names of the couple, those are a few "moments" I've encountered - no fatalities yet, but I suppose now we can all be prepared...

Tim,

I don't hide the fact I'm not a wedding or pro videographer. It's incredibly tough, frantic work and I respect those who do it for a living. My comments come from a general life and business perspective. If you treat people graciously and generously it has a way of coming back to you many times over.

However, given this is a wedding group, I'll step aside and listen to others that have to deal with the pressures of your business. I found the post one of the more interesting posts I've read on the forum in a while.

Roger, I just wanted to come back and say thanks for clarifying where you were coming from. If I ever shot a wedding that I just really REALLY didn't want to edit, I'd probably do what you proposed and offer to cut the fee to just give them the tapes.